feat: production hardening — security, scale, protocol, DX

Breaking changes to FederationRepository, ApObjectHandler, ApUser:

FederationRepository:
- add is_activity_processed / mark_activity_processed (inbox idempotency)
- add get_accepted_follower_inboxes (DB-side dedup/filtering, replaces in-memory load-all)

ApObjectHandler:
- add on_announce_of_remote (cross-server boosts, previously silently dropped)

ApUser:
- add manually_approves_followers: bool
- add actor_type: ApActorType (was hardcoded Person)

Security:
- block check before actor HTTP fetch in Follow (prevents SSRF on blocked actors)
- 4xx responses use generic "not found"/"bad request" (no internal leak)
- 1 MB DefaultBodyLimit on inbox routes
- zeroize private key after generation

Delivery:
- all broadcasts are now non-blocking (tokio::spawn fallback, or EventPublisher queue)
- EventPublisher redesigned with typed FederationEvent enum (DeliveryRequested/DeliveryFailed)
- new deliver_to_inbox() public method for queue consumers
- configurable delivery_max_attempts and delivery_initial_delay_secs via builder
- Follow saved as Pending BEFORE delivery (race condition fix)

Router:
- GET /users/{id} (actor), GET /users/{id}/followers, GET /users/{id}/following now mounted

Protocol:
- mention extraction from Create/Update tag arrays → on_mention() dispatched
- WebFinger: add aliases field (acct: URI + AP actor URL)
- outbox: add last link, use count_local_posts for totalItems
- idempotency guard added to every inbound activity receive()
- actor serializes display_name and configurable actor_type/manually_approves_followers

Bump: 0.1.10 → 0.2.0

Cargo.toml

@@ -1,6 +1,6 @@
 [package]
 name = "k-ap"
-version = "0.1.10"
+version = "0.2.0"
 edition = "2024"
 description = "Generic ActivityPub protocol layer"
 license = "MIT"
@@ -21,3 +21,4 @@ reqwest           = { version = "0.13", features = ["json"] }
 url               = { version = "2", features = ["serde"] }
 enum_delegate     = "0.2"
 activitypub_federation = "0.7.0-beta.11"
+zeroize             = { version = "1", features = ["derive"] }